How To DJ Your First Wedding (& a 15 minute rant)

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djmickeyTV says:

Totally Agree

Bob Vick says:

Love the rant. I agree as a 20 plus yr vet. I see myself as an
entertainer. I welcome the guests, keep the party moving, and make sure
the bride and groom are happy. Satisfying guests from 7 to 70 with
different music tastes all the while making sure the bide (it is her day)
hears what she like and wants, is no easy task… no matter how long you’ve
been doing it. BTW it’s you can talk the talk but can you walk the
talk.. thanks

Tony Draper says:

Everything u said in this video is so true. I am a club DJ & have traveled
the country playing in front of huge crowds but b4 I did all this I started
as a mobile DJ. Sweet 16, weddings, etc & I learned from guys who were in
the game & doing this for yrs. Granted back then they were wearing Tux’s &
stuff & I always hated that part of the gig & I remember DJing Run’s
(RUN-DMC) Wedding at Lenard’s here in NYC. They brought me on to do that
wedding cause I was really into hip hop back Then & loved Cutting &
Scratching & they knew I would be an asset for them. Obviously this wedding
was a little diff from most weddings cause of the style of music being
played & u had a lot of celebs floating around. The music wasn’t about the
Chicken Dance. Remember, Tux’ what I’m trying to get at here is that
even though I’ve done the club thing &the Tux thing & the high profile
thing (Eddie Murphy’s) wedding as well, I’m a club DJ now & if I was to try
& do a wedding at this moment in my life I’d prob be lost.. It would take
some practice & some gig’ing to get back in the swing of things. Brian is
so right. U can’t jus go out & buy gear a computer with some toons & call
yourself a DJ. It doesn’t work that way.. Like all good things in life it
takes time & if u want a good quality DJ I suggest anyone who’s looking for
a DJ to get one who’s invested there time. Not jus money.. Anyone can buy
stuff. Its how u use it & experience behind it that makes us DJ’S
professional entertainers.. I personally feel that every DJ should at least
know how to mix a record b4 he does his first gig lol & should go out with
other DJs on there gigs for free if need be for the experience. I use to
call other dj’ s that were spinning at the club & offer to open for them
for free. Why? Experience. I would also know my roll. I was the opener.
They were the headliner. My roll was to build the night up & make them look
good. My day would come & so will every other mobile or club DJ out there
if its done correctly. Great topic Brian, great video. Keep em coming. :)).

Mufassir Suhanoo says:

Thumbs up for the last 15 minutes. This is something that the new DJ’s tend
to forget. Hats off to you…

spongestar squidpants says:

This is so true!!!! THANK YOU!!

Alejandro Hidalgo says:

Want to get the point? just search for **** Craigslist DJ’s Ruin Weddings*
*** I totally understand, I happen to have some experience as a full
time-no second job international club DJ since 1983 until 2006, worked in
clubs ranging from 300 persons to 2500 attendance, and i am looking forward
to start again from the very bottom, you know pair of 15 inch active
speakers and a dual 18 inch sub bottom, believe me, i will not do a 100
wedding at the beggining no matter how small right now because even wih all
my experience i do not feel ready. I will start small, with my own kids
parties and birhdays or pool parties until i am asked to do an actual
event, from there assist as help to successful weddings until i get ready
to do my own gig and not blow it. 

Grady Taylor says:

Good Video. I understand everything you was talking about.

DJStrikeItUp says:

Love love love this video! Too many wannabes trying to pass themselves off
as legitimate DJs and ofcourse professionals like us are the ones who

spongestar squidpants says:

Check out this video on YouTube: this rant explains so much

Sam Hudson says:

yep but your just saying that no can ever become a DJ. you’ve got to start

Avery Helms says:

+briansredd, There are a lot of negative comments on this video. Instead of
doing that, I want to thank you for giving some really helpful advice to
people who have little to no clue to what they are doing. I have never
understood why my peers think they can sell themselves as wedding DJ’s with
little to no experience. 

Felix Leonard says:

I wonder, if everything you said would make it into a ‘dj’ textbook if it
were taught in a DJ school? do you think you comments about obesity would
make it into a dj textbook? how do you consider criticizing someones weight
constructive to your art form? 

Anthony Schuft says:

I have the same frustrations sir, I hate going to a club or a wedding and
listening to a song and then the DJ for some reason stops the one song and
starts a new one. I have been DJing for 14 years I wasn’t the best DJ when
I started but It takes time to get good. I hate when these DJ hacks show
up. I hate being under cut by a hack that has no idea what they are doing.
If you are thinking about getting into DJ find a real DJ that knows what
he/she is doing and ask them if they can help you out and show you the
ropes and learn from them.

Christopher Varney says:

110% spot on. Every wedding (other than my own) that I’ve been to has done
a HORRIBLE job DJing. I trusted only one other DJ in my county with my
wedding and paid as such. I’m a $600/event DJ whom plays on 1200s/serato.
The moment my turntables come out, everyone that notices knows that the
rest of the night is going to be good. It’s all about perception.

brian succar says:

There is a lot of hate that the person in the video is giving out. He has
lots of hate and envy in his heart. He is insecure with himself worrying to
much about how others make him look. If he was truly confident in how great
of a Dj he is he should not worry about how others make him appear, as if
he DJ Tiesto or something. He is flattering his ego, he isn’t the center of
the universe. I wish that no one gets discouraged to follow your dreams. If
you follow your dreams and work hard you will succeed. I’m unsubscribing
from this weirdo. 

MutinyVT says:

We all have to start somewhere. How can you get experience doing wedding
receptions without doing wedding receptions???? Sounds like an elitist who
wants other people to “pay their dues”, Well I do not WANT to go through
years of shit just to appease your sense of snobbery. Granted you have a a
lot of good info and I watch you videos. I just do not agree with you views
and will do what I want to with my own career.

BBBDubb says:

Unfortunately, Brian went full retard on this video. Never go full B-tard.

SonidoPericosDjTilo says:

love it and its not ranting not being hateful im not all that of a good dj
however ive learned that in the L.A. area there was a dj eruption out of
nowhere djs with the really basic things without knowing how to mix or
entertain were out charging 200 dollars all night at weddings ?! i
understand you want to get the job but seriously ? then now ive gotten
better at what i do but i dont go giving out my services .i saw a guy today
on a facebook page saying they charge 180 all night ?! people have to tep
their game up and i know i do too but when ever you drop the price that low
make sure you tell your clients that they can shop around PLEASE. lol
anyway great video 4 years later here i am and great job Brian way to tell
the truth ! to everyone else PRACTICE & enjoy 

davieboy1970 says:

A lot of you are being ass hats to Brian here becuase he made a comment
about “big Guys” being a dj !! well here’s my thoughts on that and Just
like Brian said (if you didn’t hear him) NO OFFENCE to bigger people ! I
own my own very sucessful Dj company and have a few people working for me !
I agree with him there’s an image that we Dj’s need to keep and I chose my
dj’s by appearence.. I’m not gonna hire someone to represent my company and
my image that looks like they are a Karny !! They should have a very
attractive appearence. That’s how the bussiness works get over it. there’s
alot of jobs in this world that don’t accept unattractive people. Like
being a model per say ! You need to have an attractive look to you ! and
that’s just how I run my company !! 

DjSuSpEcT1 says:

This is YouTube people! Don’t start getting all butthurt. Pretty much it
all comes down to the money aspect of the industry. I’ve run into mobile
dj’s that are making $500+ for weddings, sweet 16, quinceñeras, etc. for a
simple set up. Different factors drive the pricing up, based on what the
client wants or needs to happen at their event. But what I think Brian
might be getting at is that now you have all these new dj’s that are trying
to do the same gigs at a fraction of the cost for the same gig. It is
making it harder for the dj that has been doing this for years to make a
profit when you are being compared to novice’s price. I had a bride ask me,
“Why are you charging so much when I can get a dj for $200 for my wedding.”
:-/ are you f*#%@n serious. It’s because of all the software and technology
that everyone is finding it so easy to become a dj. I’m not saying it’s
wrong to use software or technology but YOU HAVE TO PAY YOUR DUES in order
to call yourself an artist of any form bottom line! 

Mike Lynch says:

This video helped me out a lot 

Stephen Buckman says:

Wow that’s a huge call saying fat people should not DJ, sounds like you
have forgotten where you first came from and you hate new people trying to
get in on your game.

davieboy1970 says:

I’ve been doing wedding for years now ! Love all your advice……..
Perfect !! 

David Martinez says:

Hmm. kind of a downer towards the end there buddy. I’m also a beginner but
i’m learning fast. I’ve gotten all my gigs from word of mouth, spinning in
a bar every friday night and wedding gigs, and graduation gigs during
summer. But i’m sorry to disagree practice in real gigs is the best way to
learn. Sucks when you mess up a drop.. or forget to disable your effect..
but the overall night was always great as long as the music was on point.
try not to fuck it up.. will do. But THANKS for taking the time, top 200!
good idea, and yeah i’ll look up the formalities and mc tips for wedding
djs. Got to love youtube

DjBoNkErS123 says:

Sounds to me less like, practice and NJoy .. that’s just a meaningles
saying now to end videos. It’s more like practice and be how everyone else
wants you to be or get out of the industry. I’m just going to do my own
thing, and ENJOY doing what I love.

CamperCannen says:

Brian, I fully support what you are saying. What a lot of these angry
people don’t understand is that while you have to start somewhere, a
wedding isn’t the place. Sure, you have to do a wedding eventually, but
they are unlike college parties, bars, or school dances. The new people
have to understand this. I’ve wanted to be a DJ since I was about 14 and
oddly enough, it was a wedding DJ who inspired it. I’ve been lucky enough
to be taken under the wing of a pro DJ and am learning a lot. I’ve been
doing it pro now for about 6mo. I have a couple bars that I do every week,
another for karaoke, and I’ve done benefits and school dances. But, the
idea of doing a wedding scares the hell out of me and I have one booked for
November. However, I’m not going in blind. I will be training with my boss
for at least 3 weddings before I even attempt mine. Like he told me and you
angry people have to realize is that, “THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT DAY IN
THAT COUPLE’S LIFE!” You can make or break the day that they will remember
for the rest of their lives. This isn’t a fun club or bar gig. This is a
big day in the life of two people. Show it a little respect. Please

monticristonva says:

Brain.I’ve been following you for a short while now.I got on to YouTube as
a means to get some wisdom from people who I’m striving to be. This clip
here..though was briefly helpful the first few minutes ..was in fact
hurtful,bitter, and potentially discouraging. You don’t ..nor any other
“professional DJ” has the right to say anything about messing up the image
of the DJ business…
In this day and time…we all are trying to hustle for the next dollar. And
djing for some is that vehicle for help.
Use your media pulpit to educate..encourage..excite a person…not the
You may very well discourage someone hopes and dreams in 15mins and
probably took them years to muster up the courage to get to this
point…help us Brain

Roy Nawrocki says:

hello Brian, this is the first of your videos that I’ve seen and ill keep
this short. I see where you come from with the “bad” and “new” DJ’s and
frankly i agree, i mean now Traktor has an iPhone/iPad app for DJing, never
mind some of those all-in-one controllers. I am young, 17 and have always
loved music. I’ve always been kind of shy and one thing i’m trying to build
up is the confidence on the mic, especially having a lisp. i don’t agree
with the fact that all these “new guys” are ruining the credibility of the
DJ. I’ve started by saving up some money and getting hardware, and
obtaining my data by other means, but to be honest, you need to start
somewhere. Apple and HP were founded in garages, so where do us Disc
Jockeys start?

kurt travers says:

Hey brian quit being a cunt nugget . every dj as a beginner like myself has
to start from somewhere . I admit im a beginner AkA noob I have cheap
equipment I perform at small partys with 50 to 100 guests as a beginner I
dont have lots of cash for more equipment . my setup is numark cdn 22 mk 3
for sound I use a guitar amp crate & every event i do i have no complaints
. grow up 

9SunTruth says:

i understand what you are saying… Yes and for those who dont… if your
skill level is not up to par then stay away from certain events… i have
been djing for a while and i still dont do wedding… i am just getting to
the point that i might be ready for big and major events.. i almost have my
music right and song selection skills ready for older and younger crowd
control. Also, my crowd reading skills are at that level that if i do make
a bad choice i can see it and do a quick transition to another song as if
it was planed. So to me dude is saying play at your level and move up as
your skill moves..Dont tell people you are ready for the NBA and your still
in high school… hope you understand me???. practice and enjoy…..

Vidiwell100 says:

The only problem, is sometimes the experience you’re talking about is
learning by doing, when it comes to weddings. My first wedding was a
Hispanic wedding. It was for my friends sister. She didn’t have much money
so I cut her a break on the price and she forgave me for my lack of
experience. I knew how to play songs and that’s all she really wanted. I
had some Spanish music and the sister of the bride (my friend) gave me some
more. The problem was, there were some younger crowd there and the music I
was playing was considered “older” music. Couldn’t tell, it sounded like
Spanish music to me. The “older” crowd loved it. One “kid” came over and
asked if he could hook up his phone, which he had some newer songs on, and
his phone kept stopping. The music he wanted to play was called Regatone
and is Hispanic rap. I eventually told him to get away and went on with my
set. I now have a policy of NO personal devices. Long story short, I
learned from “doing” there. Reading a book or watching a video could not
have prepared me for that. Mostly, I DJ part time at my weekend job and a
condo next door, where they have a few parties a year, but I want to branch
out and do some real weddings. I haven’t had a major wedding yet and I’m
still researching before I book anything. I don’t want to look like an
idiot once I’m there. That kid that told you that he had a gig and asked
you what to do, is really stupid. I’ve had gigs but won’t commit to a big
wedding until I know what I’m doing. Feel free to spread you knowledge,
it’s welcome here. And you were correct in everything you said.

Kevin Huang says:

Brian Redd, THANK YOU for this great video!

I’m a pro wedding musician who’s becoming a DJ, and so I’ve LIVED through
everything you’ve talked about especially in your “rant” which was most
useful to me!

I am being mentored by great veteran DJs, and they say the same things you
do. Compared to the “tough love” shown me by those grizzled veterans, you
are EASY!

I don’t want to be one of those “bad” DJs that mess up gigs, so thanks for
laying out the potential pitfalls! 

Dominic BOB Bacurin says:

Thanks a lot for all your video’s Brian. I’m an ex musician turned
wedding/corporate function DJ just over 2 years ago. Having a background in
covers bands was a big help in starting off as a DJ as I can sort of read a
crowd and give them more of what they want. I watch all of your video’s and
it confirms for me that I’m doing the right thing and I find all your
information valuable. Keep up the great work man. I’ll try to post some
video ASAP, just gotta work out some tech stuff first.

salsasindormir says:

Nice video. Very informative. I see where you are coming from about
tarnishing a reputation for all Dj’s. However, I believe that if someone is
a terrible entertainer than doors will not open for that person. I am young
and just getting my foot in the door as a “Dj”. I will continue to study
and become more knowledgeable as I continue to invest in this great
hobby/part time job.

Dan Kraines says:

i can see what your saying, to get some experience. guys you should try and
get work with proffesional event dj’s thats what i do. nice vid brian. you
wouldn’t happen to have any advice for a 15 year old kid wanting to become
a nightclub dj? people to talk to? site to use? stuff like that. thanks man

Triattack007 says:

I never liked this prick

bloodcassidy says:

@Sasquatched23 i agree

briansredd says:

@SOYCHINGON209 I told you in the video exacally how I started doing
Mobiles. I worked for someone else (for probably 3-4 years) and learned my
trade before I bought anything or started my own mobile service. When I DID
start my mobile service, I knew what I was doing and had built myself a
nice new little mobile system.

Adam Longworth says:

REALLY? If you have to ask that question, you’re not ready to dj a wedding.

DeejaayMrEd says:

Brian this is the first time i hear of you and your Channel , let me start
of by saying that I agree with you to a certain point , I cant stand the
fact that now in days the word MIXING doesn’t even exist in today’s world ,
I can’t stand the fact that today all you need is 2 ipods and you can call
your self a Dj , but in the other hand you shouldn’t feel that way , We all
went through F ups and learned from our Mistakes, My 28 year plus
experience speaks for its self now.. Peace Bro good channel

Dj Mito says:

i believe he’s going somewhere with this, just not the right words. there
is ALWAYS going to be new Dj’s coming in. Some young, some old. At least
where I live, there are the known and the unknown. It’s all about the name
nowadays. If you don’t put yourself out there for a lower price than the
rest, they’ll be like “who is this noob? why pay $500 to him when I can pay
$500 to the one with the a good name”. It’s not always about skill, it’s
also about smarts and instincts. Why get you not another

manwithhorn says:

Interesting. I’ve been in bands for 40 years and began offering DJ on
breaks to fatten the limited songlists of each band. Now I do both. And I
can play anything and it sounds as good as the record (cuz it is!). But you
have to READ the crowd (dance floor). And make sure NO ONE has to wait more
than three songs to hear something he likes. And you’re not there to play
what YOU wanna hear – it’s what THEY wanna hear that’s important!

djtimaugusta says:

You are absolutely right on your rant! I’ve been doing this for over 24
years and I have seen time and time again people doing just what you’ve
talked about. They have a little bit of money and go out and buy some
equipment and call themselves a DJ service. With no experience or common
sense, the only way they could get gigs was to give it away for very little
money. Not only were they hacks, they were whores! Making it hard on the
rest of us who depend on this for a living. Props to you!

Brian Jones says:

For those who think Brian is preaching and putting down “new guys,” he just
isn’t. He is explaining how it is and what to expect to properly DJ a
wedding. If you say, “Everybody has to start somewhere” this is true, but
the place to start is by working for and with someone who is already doing
weddings. Work as a helper and eventually try it out under supervision. If
that isn’t an option, so be it, but TRY to do it right. Trust me. I know
from experience.

Nick Reilly says:

the difference between the two, because a wedding is not the same as the
college party. So I searched how to optimize my performance as a potential
wedding DJ. My biggest beef with you right now, is youre preaching, saying
how us new guys are ruining the image, instead of actively trying to help
us. youre not going to change the world by bitching, no offense. before you
lose faith in kids, maybe hire an assistant. inspire by showing them their
potential, not biting our heads off.

Eric Mcdonald says:

Yeah but the new guys have to start somewhere

briansredd says:

@djgibbsy This is for sure NOT The only business in the world where
everyone is against each other. Hey, at least we’re talking.

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